When Second Life and Real Life Collide

For the first time in all my years online I have a real life boyfriend who happens to be incredibly supportive of what I do, which I am truly thankful for but lately, with it being Summer, my posts find me with far less clothes on than normal and today I had, in my opinion, a rather amusing conversation.  As I sat down to do my post for the day, I showed him the photos I had already set up and asked his opinion on which one I should do first.  I chose to do a furniture post, but in the grouping of photos happens to be another bikini and tattoos picture.  Out of the mouth of my oh so supportive man suddenly came the following, "Why do you have to wear so little in what seems like ALL your posts?  Do you always have to be half naked?"  To which I responded with a few minutes of hysterical laughter, but the look on his face said he wasn't really kidding.  I had to take a step back for a moment and consider his position on the matter, and I still find it amusing.  Now maybe this is because I see "Jade" as an entity outside myself, a character I have created who happens to resemble me a tiny bit in my younger years, and who happens to share my personality simply because I have chosen to just be me, not a persona online; or maybe it's simply because I have been online for so many years and have gotten desensitized to what I do, I'm really not sure, but I have a hard time taking him seriously.  And I don't want to belittle his feelings on the matter, I am truly trying to see his point of view, but on this I think we will end up having to agree to disagree.  Being a blogger is different than just running around the grid half naked and role playing with people in say strip clubs or music venues, etc, there is rarely an exchange between people unless you happen to be doing a couples pose or something along those lines, so I don't think it crosses any real or imagined relationship boundaries.  But if my partner does, how far do I bend in my work to keep him from feeling the way he is at the moment?  I am a firm believer in bending in relationships, as it allows each person to still have what they want, to a certain extent and one person doesn't feel like they are always compromising while the other stands steadfast in their resolve.  So I went through my blog and my photos and showed him that I very rarely tiptoe into waters that make my blog have more than a PG-13 rating, and he was much happier.  I have a feeling he thought my blog was bordering on too risque for him, and with us both having an online presence, just in different ways, he felt that would be crossing a bit of a boundary for him.  And when you are in love, if your partner feels like a boundary could be crossed or has been crossed in their eyes, then you have inflicted damage that will take a long time to heal.  But if you discuss those moments rationally when you don't see eye to eye it's amazing how much you discover about each other, because no one loves the same, which is why love is so intricately and infinitely beautiful.

I very rarely go nuts over a gacha, ok, I lie, but seriously, there aren't that many I will play until I have all the pieces, and Foxes Traveling Heart gacha currently at The Epiphany saw me playing until I had everything, then I went home, unpacked all my extras, got my points and scampered on back to pick up the exclusive.  Which is now set up on the back part of my property because I absolutely adore every piece, and I love how well they mix with some of my other well loved boho pieces, including the new pillows from unKindness that you can pick up at the current round of Shiny Shabby.  

If you happen to be a lover of the boho culture and design do yourself a favor and check out The Epiphany and Shiny Shabby's current rounds because I promise you will find all kinds of goodies to decorate your secluded relaxation spot or trendy boho home.

The Décor Details

Carriage - Foxes - Traveling Caravan - White - EXCLUSIVE @ The Epiphany
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/The%20Epiphany/129/128/35

Campfire - Foxes - Traveling Caravan - Campfire-White @ The Epiphany
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/The%20Epiphany/129/128/35

Flowers on Porch - Kaerri - Paris Flower Market - Blue, Cerise, Pink, Yellow
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Maven%20Homes/227/9/497

Rugs - DIGS - Malabar Rugs
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Terra%20Felix/140/129/24

Pillow Stacks - unKindness - Shabby and Boho Pillow Stacks @ Shiny Shabby
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Shiny%20Shabby/130/129/21

Caged Vase - Scarlet Creative - Nerites Plant (June Arcade item)
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/mountain%20view/130/3/22

Fire - aa build and design - Log Fire (Small) with resizer (MP)

Fireplace Art - unKindness - Metal Hamsa, Lotus and Elephant
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Theory/90/130/21

Flowering Tree - Aphrodite - Elegant Rose Potted Plant
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Shopping%20City/175/180/22

Dogs - Foxes - Traveling Hearts - Whippet - Brown @ The Epiphany
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/The%20Epiphany/129/128/35

Books - Knick Knacks - French Books Collection

Ashtray - SORGO - past gacha item
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Home%20Coming/216/161/23

Mobile - Foxes - Traveling Hearts - Starlight(Silver) RARE @ The Epiphany
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/The%20Epiphany/129/128/35

Hanging Lanterns - Foxes - Traveling Hearts - Lanterns @ The Epiphany
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/The%20Epiphany/129/128/35

Guitar - unKindness - In Tuned Bench w/o Blanket
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Theory/90/130/21

Watering Can - keke - Watering Can - Beatle
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Manet/129/91/21

Floor Plant - Heart Homes - part of the Lotus Chillout
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Shopping%20City/175/180/22

Flowering Cactus - Kaerri - La Joya Flowered Cactus - Red (part of the new La Joya Collection)
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Maven%20Homes/227/9/497

Have a wonderfully wicked rest of your day and remember to always stay true to your style and make today's trends in fashion and home décor work for you!

~Jade~

"What you had and what you lost. They're all memories in the wind. Those days go by, and we all start again." The Offspring

Not quite sure what has me reminiscing today, but I have been thinking about the years I spent traveling back and forth between Phoenix and Huntington Beach, California back in the mid-90's.  I met a lot of interesting people and had a lot of fun, though there was a lot of pain in my life.  After all these years I can look back fondly, instead of seeing only the painful things, and it's a lot like looking at old photographs; the memory remains but the raw emotions have now faded leaving only a dusty imprint on my soul.  For some people, this never seems to happen, and I wish there was a magic switch to flip to reveal to them the lessons they learned instead of them becoming a slave to the pain of the past.  But I guess that is part of what makes us all so very different from each other, and I wouldn't change that for the world.  Since I seem to communicate better through music than I do verbally, at time, I recently shared a song with my son that touched on this exact topic and decided to use it today for my post so I could share this sentiment with all of you.  Every moment of your life, no matter how hard it may be, is just a passing moment.  When things seem a bit too rough, and you have lost even a pinpoint of light at the end of the tunnel, remind yourself that this too shall pass, and that sun will rise again tomorrow bringing with it a whole new light and new perspective.  These days will go by just like those magical moments you wished would never end, but the photographs in your mind will always take you back, if you want to look.

If you read my earlier post today then you know I have fallen in love with this adorable new dress from POSH Pixels, currently available at Swank, unless they have closed up shop for the month, then check the main store, I have provided both links below.  The Hair Fair 2016 is in full swing which means you just have to head on over as soon as you can to pick up some fantastic new creations as well as donate to a good cause since a percentage of every sale goes to benefit Wigs for Kids.  I fell in love with this hair from ICONIC as soon as I set my eyes on it and well I haven't taken it off unless having to do a post!  It lies wonderfully over the breasts and along the back without breaking, which is always a plus in my book.  So head on over NOW, you won't be disappointed!

I am so excited to announce that unKindness is in this round of Shiny Shabby with fabulous new pillows and benches all in the classic boho styling which is the main influence for this round of the event!  The benches come in 3 different color combinations and the pillows come in Boho and Shabby, which I think work perfectly together in my little retreat at home.  The textures and color combinations are to die for and the more pillows the better, in my opinion, so hurry on over and grab yours today!  Peeking down from the ceiling is something I picked up at The Epiphany that I adore!  Foxes gacha has all kinds of goodies for your home as well as a Rare cottage in Dark as well as the special exclusive being the cottage in Light, with every piece in the gacha available in light and dark so you can furnish each one!  Poke me in-world if you are looking for any pieces of this, I will gladly negotiate, as I have a couple of the Rare Starlights pictured here, as I am sure they would make a great addition to your home today!

The Fashion Details

Head - LeLutka
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/LeLutka/128/128/26

Body - Maitreya
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Maitreya%20Isle/128/133/24

Skin - DeeTaleZ
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/DeeTaleZ/127/128/265

Hair - ICONIC - Neva @ Hair Fair 2016
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Iridium/129/25/26

Eyes - IKON - Triumph - Glass
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/IKON/143/128/501

Earrings and Necklace - Maxi Gossamer - Venice Beach Boho @ FaMESHed
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/FaMESHed/131/161/22

Tattoo - White-Widow - Chocolat
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Essences/129/135/22

Dress - POSH Pixels - Bohemian Rhapsody @ Swank
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Sage%20Isle/191/17/2004
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Vosk%20Post/193/74/22

Pose - PosESion - Hope
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Brimstone/49/61/22

The Décor Details

Seating and Pillows - unKindness - Boho Puff Benches and Pillows @ Shiny Shabby
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Shiny%20Shabby/130/129/21

Chair - Trompe Loeil - Selah Rattan Chairs @ FaMESHed
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/FaMESHed/131/161/22

Book Cart - 8f8 - Storytellers Burrow - Knowledge Cart (past Arcade item)

Stack of books - Zerkalo - Huge Pile of Books - Rare (check the gachas at the store since I don't remember the name of it)
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Zerkalo/151/128/21

Ladder - Clustered - Bohemian Corner Ladder

Incense and Bowl - Soy
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Soy/147/160/30Fozes

Rug - unKindness - Battered Old Rug V2
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Theory/90/130/21

Wall Hanging - unKindness - Wall Tapestry - Koi
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Theory/90/130/21

Mobile - Foxes - Traveling Heart - Starlight - Silver RARE @ The Epiphany
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/The%20Epiphany/129/128/35

Have a wonderfully wicked rest of your day and remember to always stay true to your style and make today's trends in fashion and home décor work for you!

~Jade~

"Love is not in our choice but in our fate." - John Dryden

For many years now I have firmly believed that love is an ever elusive creature, hard to catch and even harder to keep.  Once upon a time I had my fairy tale wedding with lofty dreams of a beautiful forever that was crushed by the darkness of abuse.  Though I have been in a couple of relationships since, I never got married again and in some ways I don't think I ever will, in the traditional sense of the word.  I hate the fact that the government tells me I have to have a piece of paper to declare my love for someone, and that others are denied the same right.  Love is something to be celebrated, not hidden; to stand in front of your friends, family and what ever higher power you embrace is the purest and truest way to show your love.  No piece of paper can ever take the place of a true celebration of love, no matter what the government tells people.

Unless you have been hiding under a rock, you know about the recent attacks in Florida and other places in the country at LGBT events, which in reality have been attacks on love.  I sit in front of my computer and read the stories and events and I am horrified that in this advanced society we live in, that people are still persecuted simply for the fact they love someone of the same sex.  In my opinion, we have much bigger problems in this country to be worried about than love.  Because in the end that is what all this boils down to, the fact that love is love, no matter what form it comes in.  If you are lucky enough in this lifetime to find love, as long as it isn't with children or animals ( I do draw SOME lines people!), then celebrate it and enjoy the precious gift you have been given.  The Pulse Charity Event runs through the 12th of the month and all proceeds go to Equality Florida to support the victims and families of the Orlando shooting.  Hurry on over to the event today, you won't be disappointed and you will get a chance to feel good about spending a few Linden as well! 

The Fashion Details

Head - LeLutka
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/LeLutka/128/128/26

Body - Maitreya
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Maitreya%20Isle/128/133/24

Skin - DeeTaleZ
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/DeeTaleZ/127/128/265

Tattoo - White-Widow - Chocolat - Black @ Pulse Charity Event
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Fuyumi/129/128/29

Hair - D!va - Leah - Red Amber @ Collabor88
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/8%208/170/193/1086

Lashes - Gaeline - Felicia
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/GAELINE%20CREATIONS/128/127/30

Eyes - IKON - Triumph - Silverleaf
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/IKON/143/128/501

Necklace - Maxi Gossamer - Little Memory Locket
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Cynful/143/166/1002

T-shirt - Foxes - Love is Love @ Pulse Charity
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Fuyumi/129/128/29

Jeans - Blueberry - Pizza Jeans @ Pulse Charity
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Fuyumi/129/128/29

The Décor Details

Gazebo - Scarlet Creative - Nerites Gazebo (the extra award from The Arcade June 2016
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/mountain%20view/130/3/22
Hanging Lounger - Cheeky Pea -  Unicorn Hanging Lounger@ Pulse Charity Event
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Fuyumi/129/128/29
Wall Hanging - unKindness - Wall Tapestry Set - 3 to choose from @ Pulse Charity Eventhttp://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Fuyumi/129/128/29
Plant - Glam Affair - Joy Gacha - Plant @ Chapter Four #38
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Dreamlove/89/134/1236
Rug - Glam Affair - Joy Gacha - Rug @ Chapter Four #38http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Dreamlove/89/134/1236

Ivy Plant - Scarlet Creative - Nerites Plant - From The Arcade - June 2016
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/mountain%20view/130/3/22

Hanging Picture - Glam Affair - Joy Gacha - Painting 1 @ Chapter Four #38
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Dreamlove/89/134/1236

Have a wonderfully wicked rest of your weekends and remember to always stay true to your style and make today's trends in fashion and home décor work for you!

~Jade~