When Second Life and Real Life Collide

For the first time in all my years online I have a real life boyfriend who happens to be incredibly supportive of what I do, which I am truly thankful for but lately, with it being Summer, my posts find me with far less clothes on than normal and today I had, in my opinion, a rather amusing conversation.  As I sat down to do my post for the day, I showed him the photos I had already set up and asked his opinion on which one I should do first.  I chose to do a furniture post, but in the grouping of photos happens to be another bikini and tattoos picture.  Out of the mouth of my oh so supportive man suddenly came the following, "Why do you have to wear so little in what seems like ALL your posts?  Do you always have to be half naked?"  To which I responded with a few minutes of hysterical laughter, but the look on his face said he wasn't really kidding.  I had to take a step back for a moment and consider his position on the matter, and I still find it amusing.  Now maybe this is because I see "Jade" as an entity outside myself, a character I have created who happens to resemble me a tiny bit in my younger years, and who happens to share my personality simply because I have chosen to just be me, not a persona online; or maybe it's simply because I have been online for so many years and have gotten desensitized to what I do, I'm really not sure, but I have a hard time taking him seriously.  And I don't want to belittle his feelings on the matter, I am truly trying to see his point of view, but on this I think we will end up having to agree to disagree.  Being a blogger is different than just running around the grid half naked and role playing with people in say strip clubs or music venues, etc, there is rarely an exchange between people unless you happen to be doing a couples pose or something along those lines, so I don't think it crosses any real or imagined relationship boundaries.  But if my partner does, how far do I bend in my work to keep him from feeling the way he is at the moment?  I am a firm believer in bending in relationships, as it allows each person to still have what they want, to a certain extent and one person doesn't feel like they are always compromising while the other stands steadfast in their resolve.  So I went through my blog and my photos and showed him that I very rarely tiptoe into waters that make my blog have more than a PG-13 rating, and he was much happier.  I have a feeling he thought my blog was bordering on too risque for him, and with us both having an online presence, just in different ways, he felt that would be crossing a bit of a boundary for him.  And when you are in love, if your partner feels like a boundary could be crossed or has been crossed in their eyes, then you have inflicted damage that will take a long time to heal.  But if you discuss those moments rationally when you don't see eye to eye it's amazing how much you discover about each other, because no one loves the same, which is why love is so intricately and infinitely beautiful.

I very rarely go nuts over a gacha, ok, I lie, but seriously, there aren't that many I will play until I have all the pieces, and Foxes Traveling Heart gacha currently at The Epiphany saw me playing until I had everything, then I went home, unpacked all my extras, got my points and scampered on back to pick up the exclusive.  Which is now set up on the back part of my property because I absolutely adore every piece, and I love how well they mix with some of my other well loved boho pieces, including the new pillows from unKindness that you can pick up at the current round of Shiny Shabby.  

If you happen to be a lover of the boho culture and design do yourself a favor and check out The Epiphany and Shiny Shabby's current rounds because I promise you will find all kinds of goodies to decorate your secluded relaxation spot or trendy boho home.

The Décor Details

Carriage - Foxes - Traveling Caravan - White - EXCLUSIVE @ The Epiphany
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/The%20Epiphany/129/128/35

Campfire - Foxes - Traveling Caravan - Campfire-White @ The Epiphany
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/The%20Epiphany/129/128/35

Flowers on Porch - Kaerri - Paris Flower Market - Blue, Cerise, Pink, Yellow
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Maven%20Homes/227/9/497

Rugs - DIGS - Malabar Rugs
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Terra%20Felix/140/129/24

Pillow Stacks - unKindness - Shabby and Boho Pillow Stacks @ Shiny Shabby
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Shiny%20Shabby/130/129/21

Caged Vase - Scarlet Creative - Nerites Plant (June Arcade item)
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/mountain%20view/130/3/22

Fire - aa build and design - Log Fire (Small) with resizer (MP)

Fireplace Art - unKindness - Metal Hamsa, Lotus and Elephant
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Theory/90/130/21

Flowering Tree - Aphrodite - Elegant Rose Potted Plant
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Shopping%20City/175/180/22

Dogs - Foxes - Traveling Hearts - Whippet - Brown @ The Epiphany
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/The%20Epiphany/129/128/35

Books - Knick Knacks - French Books Collection

Ashtray - SORGO - past gacha item
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Home%20Coming/216/161/23

Mobile - Foxes - Traveling Hearts - Starlight(Silver) RARE @ The Epiphany
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/The%20Epiphany/129/128/35

Hanging Lanterns - Foxes - Traveling Hearts - Lanterns @ The Epiphany
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/The%20Epiphany/129/128/35

Guitar - unKindness - In Tuned Bench w/o Blanket
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Theory/90/130/21

Watering Can - keke - Watering Can - Beatle
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Manet/129/91/21

Floor Plant - Heart Homes - part of the Lotus Chillout
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Shopping%20City/175/180/22

Flowering Cactus - Kaerri - La Joya Flowered Cactus - Red (part of the new La Joya Collection)
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Maven%20Homes/227/9/497

Have a wonderfully wicked rest of your day and remember to always stay true to your style and make today's trends in fashion and home décor work for you!

~Jade~

Always Deer - A Tribute to the late Alan Rickman

I remember standing in line at Barnes and Noble in 1998 to pick up the first two Harry Potter books with a big pregnant belly.  I remember the first being a constant companion during a mostly bed-ridden pregnancy and I remember distinctly the feeling of falling in love with the characters.  When my son was born, I read to him nightly from the books and through the years they became a staple of our lives.  When my son's Father was killed, I know I buried myself in books and movies to escape my pain, and I know the movies were in constant rotation in the VCR.  My son identified with Harry, and the loss of his parents quite significantly and I believe there were times when the movies helped ease his grief as well.  As the years have gone by we both tend to do our movie marathons of the Harry Potter collection, curled up on my bed.  Waking yesterday to the news of Alan Rickman's passing, was a shock to both our systems and as I looked in his eyes I could see part of his childhood slip away, and that mature young man suddenly seemed like a little boy again.  Though he had many other roles in his career, the one of Professor Snape, had a profound influence on my son and I's lives.  Rest in peace Professor Snape, the world is still lit by the wands being raised in your honor.

The wonderful creative team at unKindness are also true Harry Potter fans and also were truly saddened to hear of Alan Rickman's passing; and in loving tribute this wonderful  "Always Deer" sign was created and is available for everyone to pick up at the main store.  The biggest lesson I learned from the series is that love never dies.  We carry a piece of our loved ones with us even when they have left this world, and that even in the darkest of hours, that love can save us, Always.

The Décor

Build - Scarlet Creative - Moon Rise Cottage

Sofa - ARIA - Nixie Linen Sofa + Blanket @ FaMESHed

Rugs - DIGS - Malabar Rugs @ LTD Event

Roses - Ariskea - [Nordica] Hybrid Roses @ FaMESHed

Chest - Glam Affair - Wooden Chest - Shabby @ Chapter Four

Lamp on Chest - Kaerri - Sticks Lamp - Small

Branch Lights - unKindness - Stik Lights - Birch

Basket - Zerkalo - All White

Pillow (L) in Basket - Zerkalo - Halloween in White

Pillow (R) in Basket - Zerkalo - Vintage Treasures - Paris

Ladder - Apt. B - LTD Gacha Ladder @ LTD Event

Hanging Wall Art - unKindness - Always Deer - Tribute to Alan Rickman

3D Frame - Apt. B - LTD Gacha Flowers @ LTD Event

Clock - Zerkalo - Love Nest Clock

Prints - Trompe Loeil - Classic News Prints

Have a wonderfully wicked rest of your day and remember to always stay true to your style and make today's trends in home décor work for you!

~Jade~

Time for a little redecorating

As my readers know, I finally settled on a home awhile ago now and I haven't changed much since I moved in, just a few things here and there.  My attic eclectic look had kind of taken over which suited me just fine, until The Liaison Collaborative opened yesterday with their Bohemian theme.  Now my two sides are fighting with each other and in the end I called a truce picking up a few new pieces from Zerkalo at FaMESHed and a whole bunch of Bohemian items from The Liaison Collaborative, satisfying both sides of my personality.  Now the trick will be to make everything go together seamlessly in the house, but that after all is the appeal of haphazard styling!

DIGS brings the Malabar Set to The Liaison Collaborative with wonderful coordinating pieces and colors tailored to the more Bohemian side of life.  The Love Seat and Chair come in PG and Adult versions with the art work, rugs and wall hanging as accessory pieces.  You can purchase the items individually or as a set so be careful when clicking to make sure you are grabbing the right set.  I loved the living room sets from Clustered as well, but I had to make a choice, but I just HAD to have this adorable ladder with it's bright pattern, a perfect accent to the DIGS set.  Since I happened to be wearing a new release from NoName while out and about shopping I decided to share it with you all as well since it's just so damned cute!  The Bonita top comes in several solid colors as well as a couple of innuendo embossed tops that coordinate with the high-waist shorts, which offer more colors than the tops!  You can always count on NoName to bring you a fabulous HUD making every purchase incredibly versatile, which is always a plus in my book.  So when you head out to check TLC make sure to head by NoName as well to check out all the new releases!

Home Décor Details

Build - Trompe Loeil - Tulia Greenhouse

Rugs, Love Seat, Chair, Wall Hanging, 3 prints - DIGS - Malabar Set @ The Liaison Collaborative

Ladder - Clustered - Bohemian Corner Ladder @ The Liaison Collaborative

Shelf Artwork - Artisan Fantasy - Milltown Frames

Shelf Clock - Zerkalo - Love Nest Clock

Lanterns - Artisan Fantasy - Milltown Lanterns

Hanging Plant - *YS&YS* - Riciclo Set

Cabinet - *YS&YS* - Riciclo Set Cabinet - RARE

The Fashion Details

Body - Maitreya

Skin - DeeTaleZ - Neele

Hair - Elikatira - Quinn

Eyes - IKON - Triumph - Industrial

Liner - DeeTaleZ - Black - A

Necklace - Cae - Layered

Top - NoName - Bonita NEW!! NEW!!

Shorts - NoName - Blair NEW!! NEW!!

Shoes - Ricielli - Star

Pose - Di's Opera - Inspiration

Have a wonderfully wicked rest of your day and remember to always stay true to your style and make today's trends in fashion and home décor work for you!

~Jade~   

Another Lonely Night

You know those days, or nights where all you want to do is slip into your favorite pair of jeans and a comfy sweater and just lounge around the house?  Last night was one of those nights. Exhausted from unpacking and discovering all my new goodies from Body Fanatik, I opened Heathenesque's new releases for the upcoming round of Suicide Dollz and suddenly that need for comfort was satisfied.  Wiggling into the new Massacre jeans in my favorite blue fade and matching Atonement top made the night complete; and of course made this post take shape! 

The Massacre jeans come in two versions, one with stripes and one without (pictured here) and come in a variety of colors with matching Atonement tops to compliment each other in the best of ways!  The jeans are a perfect fit, without being too long or too short and the cuff fits really well over boots, which is something I have not always found to be the case with the other bootcut jeans around on the grid.  Jeans and tops will be available Sunday 10/19 @ Suicide Dollz!

Body Fanatik starts tomorrow, 10/17 at Noon SLT and you really should get ready to run on over!  The event features 6 designers and guests and runs for 10 days only!  Lots of exclusive items that are available this ONE time and then will no longer be available on the grid!  Needless to say, there are going to be a few things that you will need to get your hands on!  Flounce brings Amelia Peachy in two versions to the event and both are quite gorgeous!  I chose the second version as I loved the paler lips!  Gorgeous shading and perfectly detailed makeup make this a wonderful skin, so head on over tomorrow and check it out for yourself!

In case you missed them, the Noble and Virtue rings by 7mad;Ravens have become an almost permanent part of my wardrobe and are just perfect!  They are unisex and made for Male Slink hands, however, the resizers make them able to be sized for even the daintiest of hands!   The rings are very well textured and go with almost any outfit! And though you can't see the adorable detail on the top of these new boots from Reign, they still make a WONDERFUL boot to go with these jeans, and also with dresses and skirts, as the entire boot is very well made and textured, so make sure to check out FaMeshed and pick up a pair in your favorite color, or maybe, splurge on the fatpack!

Outfit

Top - Heathenesque - Atonement Top Blue @ Suicide Dollz 10/19 NEW!!

Jeans - Heathenesque - Massacre Jeans in BlueFade @ Suicide Dollz 10/19 NEW!!

Boots - Reign - Ari Boots @ FaMeshed

Earrings - Maxi Gossamer - Lyra Enchantress @ FaMeshed

Necklace - Maxi Gossamer - Lyra Enchantress @ FaMeshed

Rings - 7mad;Ravens - Noble and Virtue

 

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Shape - Mine (not for sale)

Skin - Flounce - Amelia  Peachy 2 @ Body Fanatik 10/17 noon SLT

Eyes - Adored - Glitter Girl - Springtime

Brows - Flounce - Elle - Red - Peachy (comes with skin) @ Body Fanatik

Hairbase - Emo-tions - Hairbase 17 - Ponytail - Fire

Hair - Entwined - Maia - NEW!!

Hands and Feet - Slink

Chair - DIGS - Heritage Armchair for 50 Linden Friday!

 Every Friday, a group of designers will place an item in the front of their mainstore marked down for 50L. The item might be something from the store marked down, or maybe an exclusive, special item.  Each week the designers and items will rotate.  The items will be available from 12am SLT on Friday until 11:59pm SLT on Friday.  Join the group inworld to get your list for Friday NOW!

Happy shopping and have a wonderfully wicked Thursday!

~Jade~